Lesson 1: The Architect

Welcome to Too Good. Over the next ten weeks we will devlope essential life skills that will help you make positive decisions and reach your goals now and in the future,., We will also discuss the effects and consetquences of the abuse of various drugs.

You will have a worksheet for each course. Please share them with your family. Today we will discuss how to set and reach a goal.

What is a goal? 

A goal is something you want to accomplish in life. Goals can be almost anything important to you.

Six Steps to Reaching Your Goals

In the "Goal Setting Scramble" we set and reached a simple goal. Now we are going to try something a bit more challenging. Let's meet Rupert and Melanie. They are having a blast at the 8th grade dance. How did they wind up together?

Rupert and Melanie have been close friends since they started middle school and enjoy spending time together. Melanie is a girl full of life. She is always smiling and is kind to others. Just last week, Rupert saw her stand up for a kid who was being picked on. The bullies backed right off. It was at that moment Rupert realized he liked her as more than just a friend. With the school dance a couple months away, Rupert announced his goal saying, "Next Friday, I will ask Melanie to the end of the year dance!"

Let's explore how Rupert can accomplish this goal. Rupert knows he will need a good plan if he is going to be successful. Rupert set up folders on his computer to keep him organized and on track towards reaching his goal. Look at the Step 1 "Name it" folder at the top of your workbook page. The goal you name must meet four criteria to be reachable. ........

Something's Missing

Let's practice naming a goal. Turn to page 3 in your workbook to the section titled, "Something's Missing." Each student's goal does not meet one of the four goal-naming criteria. Remember, all four must be met for a goal to be reachable. Circle the icon that represents the missing criterion and write down that criterion on the line provided. Next, revise the goal so that it meets all four criteria. The first one has been done for you.

Obstacle Illusions

The Goal-Setting model we just learned looks easy enough on paper, but we know life can be unpredictable. Unexpected events or distractions can take you off track or prevent you from reaching your goal.

You will face external obstacles like weather, traffic, or power failures that you cannot predict and often cannot control.

Imagine you set your alarm for 7:30 a.m. so you would have enough time to get to the soccer tryouts, but it doesn't go off because the batter on your phone died overnight. You wake up late at 8:45 a.m. still planning to reach your goal/ you now have an external obstacle to overcome.

Home Workout 1

To reinforce the goal-setting skills, set a family goal with input from the entire family. Your family goal could be anything you wish to accomplish as a family: saving money, starting a family recycling program, taking a trip, etc. Once you have agreed on a family goal create a family goal-setting collage on a cork board or poster board. This collage will become a visual representation of your family goal. Include photos, drawings, newspaper clippings, inspiring words-- anything that represents your family goal.

Before you can name your family goal, ask yourselves these four questions about your goal:

  • Is it Personal? Is is something you really want to do?
  • Is it Possible? Do we have, or can we get, the resources we need to achieve it?
  • Is is Positive? Instead of phrasing your goal as something you won't do, phrase it in a positive way.
  • Is it Specific? What is your specific timetable for accomplishing this goal?

Keep your collage in a prominent place as a reminder of what you are working toward!

  • What is your family goal? 
  • What materials did you use in your collage?
  • When do you hope to reach your goal?
  • What steps will the family take to reach this goal?

Looking for More?

Journal Assignments:

Quick Review: Summarize in two to three sentences what you've learned about setting a reachable goal.

Write a paragraph about on of the following quotations:

  • "If one does not know to which port one is sailing, no wind is favorable." Seneca
  • "It takes as much energy to wish as it does to plan." Eleanor Roosevelt
  • "Obstacles don't have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don't turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it." Michael Jordan


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